Gah

[sorchawench]

Virginia called today and told me that they put her Mother on a ventilator.

Anyone else see where this is possibly going? V says she's ready for it, but tomorrow is her B-Day and she hopes that whatever is going to happen DOESN'T happen tomorrow.






I feel like I'm in one of those Final Destination movies......

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[greeklady.livejournal.com]

Am I dead inside if I am sitting here thinking... these people aren't living a life they are an experiment on how long a hospital can make money? I am assuming they are in pain and how selfish to not want your mom dying on your birthday?

Sorry... I have a skewed view on death and people in pain and was happy that my ex grandmother in law was given the choice of a whoops morphine overdose and put her out of her misery. She was relieved, the family was relieved and yes it was crazy sad but we were all happy she wasn't in pain anymore.

I am sorry you get to be the one holding everyones hand while they go through this.

[sorchawench.livejournal.com]

V is big into fooling herself. She's not ready for this anyday, much less tomorrow. On one hand, knowing she doesn't handle death well, I can understand why she wouldn't want her B-Day associated with her Mother's death day.

ME on the other hand...I'm big into choice and not prolonging pain and suffering. I think I would have a reserved part of me that was sad on my B-day (in V's shoes) but sad for myself, not for my loved one. I also consider death to be an opportunity to celebrate life and a rebirth of sorts. To that...what BETTER day than a B-day.

I feel a death post coming up. I've been pondering my viewpoints on it vs. what I've seen from TMF's family and others.

[sorchawench.livejournal.com]

Also, V was upset they put her on the ventilator.

Her Mom has a DNR, no extended measures past CPR, but that doesn't include medical treatment up to the point of needing CPR.

I had to explain that a vent isn't *technically* an extreme lifesaving measure....yet. It's still considered treatment.

V thought they were going against her Mother's wishes and was upset about it. To *that* extent, I think V knows it's coming and is trying to be ready for it.