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On Saturday I participated in the Women's March, as so many did, around our country and around the world.

Initially I was confronted by people who accused me of joining "the rioters", during the inauguration. I didn't respond to those accusations, because I knew, in my heart, that we could have a peaceful demonstration about the issues behind the march, especially in my little Republican town.

As we started our 2.5 mile march, we had several people honking in support of us. We "outrageously" stayed on the sidewalks, so as not to disrupt traffic flow. We were "out of control" as we used crosswalks....and when the red hand popped up, stopped our march, waiting patiently for the signal to cross again.

Men, women, children, dogs.....we marched. We heard honks the entire way. People would wave from cars. We had people coming out of their businesses and filming us. Several would wave and shout encouragement to us. Amazingly, no windows were smashed, no cars were flipped, and nothing was set on fire.

We didn't even have a police escort.

As we marched, I took Live video on Facebook. I did make a sarcastic comment about how there was "a riot on Kemp St." I recorded the length of the march, and the people chanting and holding their signs. And, I posted these things on Facebook.

Within the 2 short hours that I was on the march, the comments began. I came home to a barrage of hatred, anger, and physical threats.

I was told that I "needed to make my husband a sandwich."

I was told to "get back in the kitchen."

I was told that we were lucky that "X person wasn't in the area, because he would have mowed us down with his truck."

By Sunday morning, one of my posts had reached 895 comments. And while there were a lot of people professing support....there were more who spewed hatred and anger.

I was shocked. I felt violated. I felt attacked by my countrymen. People who said that "Americans were the greatest people on earth." People who swore by the oath, "United We Stand." People who were adamant about protecting our Civil Rights.....especially the 2nd Amendment....

People who were enraged that a group of Americans would DARE to exercise their FIRST AMENDMENT RIGHT as guaranteed by the founders of our country.

I was told that "if I could not support our President, then I should move to another country."

I was told that "my opinion didn't matter."

I was told that I did not have "the right to body autonomy, but at the same time, that I had more rights than men."

A Facebook friend asked for clarification on what the Women's March was all about. He asked that the conversation be civil and informative.

The first three comments were:

"They're pissed about the cost of lunchmeat."

"They want the government to provide them with free tampons."

"They want the government to pay for their abortions two days before their due dates!"

One of those commenters was on *MY* friend's list!

Now, I'm not really shocked by having some of the anger and argumentative comments that I did. I actually expected it.

The country is more divided than ever, and has been for over a year. We've lost touch with each other. We're too busy pointing fingers at each other about why THEY are wrong to realize where WE factor in to the problem.

But, in a 3 day period, as I watched the country react to proposed cabinet nominees, to the inauguration of a man who has made statements that go against everything I believe in, to the new fun term, Alt-Facts, I realized I wasn't ready for the LEVEL of HATE that I faced. From complete strangers. From people I *KNEW*.

People I trusted.


Not just anger. Not just differing positions. Not just pro-life vs. pro-choice.

These people HATED me.

I couldn't put a word to what I was feeling. For 3 days, I was on the edge of tears, every day. Many of my friends circled the wagons around me, voiced their support and pride in my participation in marching. They showed me love.

But, when you have such an overwhelming wave of is very hard to hear the love.

I am an American. I enjoy privileges that so many in our country and around the world cannot even know. I "Hold these truths to be self evident...."

And I am HATED for my love of the freedoms of my country. I am hated for speaking out about my thoughts and feelings about this "Land of the Free".
I feel betrayed....on such a deep level.....and by my own country.

Date: 2017-01-24 07:56 pm (UTC)

Date: 2017-01-24 08:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs* me too.


Date: 2017-01-24 09:44 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I have a couple of short comments.

1 I think that the people saying such things don't really know you. They can rant and rave and tell you all kinds of bull shit, but in the end they just aren't worth it.

2. I know you. My daughters and I really care about you. Just hold onto that, along with the other ones in your life that care. They are worth it.

Date: 2017-01-25 07:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The level of hatred you were shown is so unfortunate, but not surprising given the level of political separation and animosity.

Date: 2017-01-27 07:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
No, I wasn't really surprised I guess as much as I was overwhelmed by it.

Date: 2017-01-26 05:35 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
This is so eloquent... and gutwrenching. *hug* Solidarity, sister.

Date: 2017-01-27 07:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thank you. I have been quite loud on my FB about these things.

Date: 2017-01-27 05:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I have found that the vast majority of "He's your president now, so suck it up, buttercup!" people are the very same people who were screaming, ranting, and raving for the last 8 years that Obama was NOT their president.

Those comments are awful and I am so sorry you received so many of them. It's abhorrent the amount of hate being spewed these days.

Date: 2017-01-27 07:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
That's what is sad...and to an extent, "gallows humor". They don't even see a correlation between the experiences.

Date: 2017-01-27 06:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Were you at the DC march? From all I heard, that one was the biggest and the least fraught with negative comments.

Still, there are social issues we have yet to even acknowledge, let alone attempt to resolve, which is where a lot of the problem begins. A lot of us have felt betrayed by our own country for a long time... and a lot of us have felt hated by our own fellow citizens for a long time, and not even for our opinions.

All we can do is stand up for what we believe is right, and to help others do the same. That's where the "safety in numbers" element comes. If we can help each other with our problems, we can fix them all...

Date: 2017-01-27 06:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
No, I was one of about 200 women and men (and 4 dogs) who marched in Wichita Falls, Tx.

A city and county so Red you'd think it was arterial.

Date: 2017-01-27 09:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I was told that I did not have "the right to body autonomy, but at the same time, that I had more rights than men.

Yes, I've seen that convoluted thinking before, too.

I'm so sorry you went through that, and I don't understand that behavior any more than you do. So many of those are likely the same people who insisted that Obama was not their president simply because he was black. But NOT because he was out to remove their rights, make a mockery of the purpose of Cabinet positions, or to spread disinformation on a level not seen outside of China or Soviet Russia.

*hugs* So, so sorry.

Date: 2017-01-27 10:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Every single post I received that was hateful came from someone who (theoretically) threw a right hand into the air, a`la Hitler.

These were the same people who screamed, "Whore!" when Michelle wore a sleeveless dress....but called Melania "classy".

The same people who swore Obama was coming (any minute now) for their guns, but told me that I was an idiot if I thought Trump would take away ANY of the freedoms we've come to.

Date: 2017-01-27 09:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thank you for marching.

It's so cliche, but the cost of freedom is high - and not just for the soldiers on the front lines of foreign countries.

Date: 2017-01-27 10:06 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The cost for freedom is high. And we're all matter if our gun hold bullets or words.

The cost of truth on the other hand, apparently depends on who you ask, eh?


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